Hey there,

We’ve all been there—rolling out a flashy new perk meant to boost morale only to hear crickets—or worse, resentment. 😬

This week, we’re unpacking the rise of “anti-perks”: well-intentioned benefits that miss the mark with today’s workforce.

Let’s talk about what’s happening—and how we can shift from “perks for show” to real, meaningful support.

💥 What Exactly Are Anti-Perks?

“Anti-perks” is a term that’s been popping up more and more in HR circles These are those benefits that, well, they look good on paper but often end up...

• Feeling performative or just plain tone-deaf

• Adding pressure instead of genuine relief

• Accidentally covering up deeper organizational issues

Think about it: like "unlimited" vacation that no one actually feels safe taking. Or a shiny new wellness app in a culture where burnout is rampant. Or even free beer on tap, but absolutely no psychological safety to speak your mind.

🚨 3 Common Anti-Perks (and Why They Fail)

Before we jump into solutions, let’s take a closer look at a few perks that seem helpful—but often backfire in practice. Here are three of the most common offenders and why they don’t work the way we hope.

• 🗓 Unlimited PTO : Sounds liberating, but often leads to less time off due to fuzzy boundaries and fear of judgment. It can add pressure instead of true relief.

• 🍩 Free Food / Swag : Fun in theory, but feels hollow if folks are underpaid or burnt out. These benefits can unintentionally signal "no raise, but here's a snack!"

• 📲 Wellness Apps & Perks : Access is great, but they're just a band-aid if people are too overwhelmed to use them. Real support, not just perks, is what truly helps burnout.

  

🎯 What Employees Actually Want

It’s not rocket science—it’s respect, trust, and real-life support. Based on what we’re hearing across industries, here’s what today’s employees consistently value most:

• 🧩 Flexibility that’s real, not performative: The autonomy to choose how, when, and where they work—because trust > time-tracking.

• 🍽️ Perks with purpose : Yes, free meals and stays still spark joy—when they’re thoughtful and actually ease daily life.

• 🧠 Mental health support that goes beyond an app: People want to feel safe asking for time, accessing therapy, or simply not burning out. Programs must be real, accessible, and stigma-free.

• 🌈 An inclusive culture that walks the talk: Belonging isn’t a buzzword—it’s a daily practice. Employees thrive when they see diversity celebrated and equity embedded in policies.

• 💸 Competitive, transparent pay: Let’s be honest: compensation matters. More than ever, people want to know they’re being paid fairly for their contributions—and told the truth about it

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That’s a wrap for now 👋

Thanks for spending a few minutes with us. We hope something here sparked a new idea—or at least made you feel a little more seen in the work you do.

Whether you’re testing out a new perk, leading a tough conversation, or simply catching your breath—know that it all counts.

We’re glad to be in this with you.
Until next time,
— Team TSOW